So I’ve been drinking, and I’ve been thinking. Sometimes I forget how captivating and strong lust is. The real biological urge to rip someone’s clothes off and have your way with them. I’ve spent many years trying to suppress those urges out of guilt and shame. For Christ’s sake, I took a purity class. I once dedicated my body and mind to a God I was not sure even truly cared for it. I was raised to believe that I am supposed to wear white on my wedding day like a badge of honor. “I made it to my wedding night. I remained pure. Damnit, I fought the good fight.”
But now that I’ve separated myself from the faith I was raised in and it’s shackled beliefs, can I embrace my randiness? Can I stop laying in my bed asking the God I’ve served for 20 years for forgiveness? How about I just embrace what comes natural to me and wake up with a smile on my face. Can I stop feeling locked down by my urges? Shouldn’t sexuality be a liberating, not binding experience? What if I never get married? Am I supposed to die a virgin, never knowing the pleasures my body naturally desires? You can show me every scripture in the bible about waiting until marriage, but I promise you that’s not what this god had intended for his people. Biblical interpretations are so off (but I’ll save that for another day.)
Some nights, especially lately, I just lay on my floor listening to the rain. My eyelids are shut tight, and I am dead to everything around me except the rain. Although here is a roof between us, the rain and I, there’s something transcendent between us. I hear it, I taste it, I can feel it’s touch, I smell it, and yet with eyes closed, I can see it. Yet, the roof is between us. That’s how I feel about hankering for physicality. I hear it, I taste it, I can feel it’s touch, I smell it, and yet with eyes closed, I can see it. And yet there is a roof, some sort of barrier between us. My conditioned mind to remain “pure” for love.
Then, you met someone who ignites that urgency in your body. Whether or not it’s love, it doesn’t really matter. You can not help but wonder which of your five senses are going to be set ablaze by the consummation of your lust. You wonder what you are going to crave the most; their touch, their smell, their sounds, their taste, and how it might look once you let yourself go. But that roof is still there. That roof of “purity”; the chastity you’ve held so tightly close to you that even in the right moment (i.e. your wedding night) you can not let it go. You can not break through that barrier. How is that fair? You sit there and tell me that’s what God intended.. for everyone to feel so inhibited and chastised for wanting their physical longing to be released. You’re wrong! You’re so ridiculously wrong. I’m not promoting promiscuity, in the sense that every sexual urge and impulse you have, you jump on it (no pun intended). Actually you know what, so what? If someone wants to explore their body with as many bodies as they choose, who are we to say anything? Who am I to judge someone for releasing their ardor for sex?
As I sit here, I wonder how much longer until my roof will cave in. Month by month, year by year it chisels away at itself. Guilt is becoming a noun and no longer a verb. So I ask myself, how much longer do I have pretend that I do not long for someone to touch my skin so deeply that they might as well be crawling into my veins? When can I let someone’s pheromones be released into my body so that I shut my self off to anything but that chemical? Can someone please set my passion on fire and watch me burn? For I long to dance upon the ashes of my former self.
Yet I still long for the forgiveness from the deity I once called my Heavenly Father. I still allow my heart to be consumed with guilt for even thinking this way. Can I long for someone’s body to laced with mine, and not forever, but yet a moment in time? Night after night I scream for complacency. Yet, I fear that I must ultimately choose the side I was so desperate to avoid…
And you, good sir, when will you kiss me?